You know those couples that seem just meant for each other?
Everything about them is the same- the music they like, the way they dress, their humor, the way they talk, their favorite foods, etc. etc. etc. And when they meet, their two worlds [very easily] collide and they look at each other and say "We are exactly the same. You are my other half."
Me and McKay weren't like that.
And oddly enough, this hat is totally part of that story.
Once upon a time, I was a little college girl- whose dreams (if you could call it that) were about to come true. For forever I had wanted to help with the blood drive at our school- for some reason, people who worked at blood drives were so cool to me (???). So I worked and worked until I got to do it and then I had to go to this meeting with all the other kids who we helping with stuff around campus.
I was walking up the stairs to the room- and two boys were behind me- laughing and asked where the room was for the service thing. I pointed and told them and kept going. And to make a long story (for another time) short, one of them was McKay and we fell in love and got engaged about three months after that. And before I say this next thing, I need to say that he truly was (and is) my best friend in the entire world.
But we were totally different.
I remember one time, sitting in his apartment while his sister was was practicing for a concert thing at school. She was singing a Bon Iver song. And as she was singing, one person was drumming on something. And I was sitting there thinking, I don't get this. And McKay, next to me, was getting chills- just loving it. And I was doing everything I could to harness my deeper, more poetic self, and I just couldn't. I just didn't get it.
Sometimes they would have basketball-watching nights. Girls and boys would both be there and even the girls would cheer. And one time I actually tried to fit in and said "Oh, the the Celtics are playing!" And it was the Cavaliers.
And that was the same night as the dustpan night.
Not a good night.
And there were lots of other things I didn't get- like YouTube videos that weren't funny to me, or how McKay didn't like dessert, or just other dumb, little things.
But, at the same time, I always looked at McKay like he was this older- so much cooler- guy...who I was so lucky to be with, and who I wanted to be like. And we were so in love with each other. But you would think that by the time you get married, you and your fiance would have combined a lot of interests, but we still hadn't.
So there we were, on our honeymoon.
We had gone to the Oregon Coast to just be together and focus on each other and we came across this tiny strip-mall thing. And at the strip mall, there was a Zumiez. And McKay loved Zumiez back then, so we went in. And suddenly, I felt out-of-place and I wanted to change. I was wearing this outfit:
(not the same day, but same shirt and cardigan).
And I felt like an old lady. I thought why am I wearing a cardigan?! I am 20 years old. And so I grabbed some (really inappropriately) skinny jeans and a graphic shirt and two beanies- and I booked it into the dressing room. And when I came out, I kinda liked it. So we bought two pairs of inappropriate skinny jeans, two beanies, and one graphic tee.
And then I never wore any of it, except the beanies.
Because I liked them.
So, this beanie is special. Because it's the very first tangible item I have that represents a merge, besides my engagement ring, obviously. But an engagement ring says 'I don't care where we came from, how we grew up, or what we like, I love you and I want to be with your forever.' And this beanie says, 'I am becoming more like you.'
And I'm sitting here thinking is this the dumbest post I have ever written on here?
But it's important, because I think some of us grow up thinking that our happily-ever-afters will come from finding the person who is exactly like we are. And it's so much more fun when they don't.
And throughout our marriage, we have learned, and fought, and laughed and fell more and more in love. And we have learned to compromise with each other:
(which McKay now loves, btw)
And the VERY BEST part is having a real combo of our very own
who likes beanies.